Three levels of 'love'.
"You are an object to get love from."
Result: exploitation, violence.
Co-dependent...DAMION... as I am always disappointing you.
"You are the person to get love from."
Result: Expectations disappointed.
"I am love."
Result: The liberation to give and receive love.
Melanie Tonia Evans
Is it self-absorbed or selfish to commit to your own inner journey, and decide to partner yourself determinedly with self-acceptance, self-healing and self-love?
What lens does someone view and relate to themselves, life and others when they are emotionally anchored in their childhood wounds, which they have created defence mechanisms around and disowned through addictions and reactive victimised behaviour? DAMION. Since it seems that EVERY women EVER in your life, and you proceed to list your mother, sisters and ex... are bitchy, carry baggage and have controlled your life with these things... or so you have convinced yourself. Guess what. ONLY YOU MAKE YOUR CHOICES. All they ever had the power to do was offer you more to choose from but YOU chose. YOU. YOU. YOU. Until you own that you will never, ever, have anything or appreciate anything good in your life. You will ALWAYS enter relationships with everyone with animosity that the new person has not earned. Therefore dooming ALL chances at a good and balanced life with another person.
What lens does someone view and relate to themselves, life and others when they have healed these inner wounds and are anchored into and responding as their loving adult self?
Which person would you like to be and have in your life loving you?
Melanie Tonia Evans
People can struggle to realise what 'feeling your pain' productively is really about.
There is an incredible difference between creating transformation and healing as a result of meeting your inner wounds, or crying and raging often without any inner focus or change.
The first process is claiming your wounds with the intent to evolve into self-love, the second version means being your wounds.